STEP BACK
which means
1. PULL BACK - NOW(!) - from this moment...
and PUT YOUR FOCUS on THE NEXT FEW BREATHS...
2. Then...ENGAGE YOUR DAMN RIDER (i.e., think!)...
3. LOOK AT:
What is really happening here?
4. And now DECIDE:
What can I do, at least for now, to best address this...
GROUNDING...
Name 5 objects you can see...
Name 4 kinds of transportation...
Name 3 shows you liked as a kid...
Name 2 places you'd like to visit...
Name 1 childhood friend...
Good! You've distracted (constructively!) and can now:
- engage your Rider (ie, think),
- consider (how best) and engage in [a] Sitting Quietly, or
- engage your Rider (cognitively in [again] constructive learning) by going here.
START with "0" on the Inhale...
...then"1" on the Exhale,
"2" on the Inhale...
...and so on...
Get to "10" (an inhale) and repeat with "0" as the Exhale and on to "1" with the Inhale...finish at "10" on the exhale.
Go to the AND THEN CONSIDER menu below and decide what next to do...
HEALTHY DIVERSION...
means doing something that requires mindful engagement.
For example: reading (just about anything); watching a favorite movie; playing a game, whether board, card, or video; engaging a hobby (i.e., something you like to do, such as gardening, baking, painting); or cleaning(!).
A WORKOUT...
that involves heavy, intense exercise can make one feel a whole lot better.
Actually - just going for a walk can make you feel better...
THEIR-CARE...
is another way to engage in healthy diversion. More on this here...
REMIND YOURSELF...
...of some enduring truths:
1. Time passes, things change...tomorrow will be different...
2. Conflict and struggle are part of life; they are here to be confronted...and overcome, and...they do make us stronger...
3. You really can - YOU...REALLY...CAN - make a difference.
4. Fight/flight/freeze/or fuck it - at the "end of the day" it is your call...