What does it mean to say, “I have anxiety”…
…or to be diagnosed with some kind of anxiety disorder?
It is first important to understand what anxiety is – and then why one “gets” or “has” anxiety – because, well…many come to incorrectly believe anxiety “is a bad thing” and thus something to be avoided or fixed or even ashamed of.
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is an emotional reaction- created by the Elephant - to a stimulus that results in a feeling - which is thus "sensed" and "experienced" by the Rider.
Anxiety (the emotion) is triggered (i.e., stimulated) in the Elephant by its sensing fear or threat...that produces physical changes and mental activity...which then results in anxiety (the feeling) experienced by the Rider. It is this feeling that we call "anxiety" - and which drives other feelings we may describe with words like fear, stress, concern, worry, apprehension, dread, panic, tension, etc.
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The physical presentation (i.e., experience) can be a racing heart, sharp shallow breathing, sweating, fatigue (tiredness), agitation (restlessness), muscle tension, etc; and the mental presentation can be one of a persistent, even overwhelming fear, dread, or intense uneasiness. Because anxiety, like any emotion, is subject to a scale of intensity meaning it can be experienced from "lightly" to "deeply" and "briefly" to "overwhelming
GOOD Anxiety
Anxiety might be described as a a kind of personal bodyguard that tries to protect us - which is "mostly" a good thing (!) - although it's difficult to accept this fact when one is in the throes of fear, fatigue, or a panic attack. And, let's be clear, that anxiety - that smothering protectiveness - is not a good thing in such instance.
BAD Anxiety
Actually, there is no "bad" anxiety...
...but, there are ways that anxiety can become problematic, including:
- When our built-in warning system - and the anxiety so generated to communicate some danger or potential threat - malfunctions...as in "being set off" due to false or erroneous interpretation of sensed stimuli (an Elephant problem); and
- When we are unable to adequately self-regulate our experiential difficulties; i.e., having fears, problems, stressors, and social/relationship issues (a Rider problem).
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Like anger (another potentially intense and possibly overwhelming feeling), it's not the emotion that can be a problem but one's capability to manage and regulate the response in such experience.
The HOW of BAD...
The book Rewire Your Anxious Brain (see Resources below) provides a wonderful explanation of how our minds work - or more precisely, how they can "malfunction" - in experiencing, reacting, and responding to anxiety. (Note: It uses the formal, scientific language of "amygdala" for the Elephant [although the amygdala is only one of many other parts of the Elephant brain] and "cortex" for the Rider.)
Understanding HOW the Elephant and the Rider "malfunction" can be critically helpful in developing such self-regulating capability to successfully manage our "good anxiety" and treat "bad (i.e., dysfunctional) anxiety." Here, in brief, are some ways of HOW the Elephant and the Rider "get it wrong":
- "misinterpreting" sensory input; e.g., it "sees" a snake when it perceives a bent stick.
- undetermined association of a sensory input to a prior traumatic episode (e.g., the smell of soap to being in war)
- panic attack from unknown cause
The Rider
- interpreting perfectly safe sensations as threatening
- through delusional or irrational thinking
believing in the absolute truth of mere thoughts
Helpful resources...
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The book:
by Pittman and Karle, 2015.
This book is highly recommended as a very helpful resource in "learning and developing the capacity to manage and self-regulate one's response" to anxiety. (Note: It serendipitously utilizes the framework of the ERM [in using "amygdalla" for Elephant and "cortex" for Rider]).